Anger, just like love, is an emotion but because of the power, intensity and the impulsiveness that comes with anger, it is very often mistaken as a negative emotion. The truth of the matter is that anger is what you make of it. Just the way, anger can destroy a relationship, it can also work as a catalyst to push you to achieve your goals.
Let’s put this in perspective:
You were depending on a friend to help you with your monthly sales target but at the very last moment, your friend bailed on you and you had to face the consequences. Now there are two ways in which you can let this manipulate you.
You can either frown and play the blame game with your friend which will end in a ruined relationship OR You can see this as a lesson and push yourself to be more independent when it comes to your work. You can use this failure as a motivation for future targets.
However, if we were ever stuck in a similar situation, quite a few of us would, without a second thought, go down the first lane. When angry, we say words we don’t really mean and do things we don’t really want to do. It clouds our judgment and leaves us with nothing but pain and regret. In addition to that, frequent feelings of anger have been linked to higher risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, depression and difficulty sleeping.
That being said, by now you must’ve figured out that anger does not do anyone any good but it is indeed an inevitable emotion. One cannot completely block out anger but there are ways to minimize and manage anger.
Here’s a list of how you can manage your anger and project it in the right way:
Words hurt much more than any other weapon. Therefore, never let anger control your mouth.
Take all the time you need to calm down and then think of possible ways to deal with the situation.
Anger is usually the culmination of repressed emotions and that is why it is of utmost importance to give yourself a physical and mental timeout from time to time.
Never ever play the blame game because you will be the only one losing.
Forgive and let the past be in the past. Holding grudges will only make you sad and miserable.
Indulge in calm activities like yoga as they slow down your heartbeat, stabilizes blood pressure, and relaxes your body.
Try to distract yourself with some light-hearted humor because laughter is indeed the best medicine.
Indulge in exercise as exercise releases endorphins which are natural "feel-good" chemicals which will make you feel more positive and happy.
Think from the other person's perspective. They might have a valid explanation for their actions.
Know your triggers and try to minimize your association with them.
Channel your anger into something productive like songwriting, art, story writing, etc.
Vent out your feelings and thoughts to a friend and seek help to decide the best plan of action.
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