Relationships, on the whole, are beautiful but they come with their own set of pros and cons. While everyone loves and enjoys the pros of a relationship, things start to spiral up when the two people are faced with the cons of a relationship. The cons of a relationship include long distance, lack of intimacy and the conflicts regarding certain behaviors or things.
Talking about relationship conflicts, they can literally make or break your relationship. The inability to handle a conflict can come in the way of a good relationship whereas the trait of knowing how to handle and resolve a conflict goes a long way in understanding your partner better and at the same time, improve the quality of your relationship.
This brings us to the question: What is the right way to handle a conflict? Read on to know the things that go into solving a relationship conflict:
Talk about it: This first step is where a lot of couples fail as they are not willing to discuss their problems. It is imperative to understand that only when a couple will open up about their problems, will they be able to confront each other and arrive at a mutual conclusion.
Do not beat around the bush: If faced with a conflict, beating around the bush will just make room for speculation and might convince them into thinking that you are pointing a finger at their character. Always ensure that you address your problem directly with your partner. This will help your partner understand your problem in a better way without making things worse.
Don’t play the blame game: Always use ‘I’ statements while addressing a problem during a conflict. Putting the blame on your partner by using a ‘you always..’ statement will only serve the purpose of infuriating your partner even more. Remember, there are no winners in the blame game.
Be all ears: While it is important to let out your built up tension during a conflict, it is equally (maybe a little more) important to listen to your partner’s side. Listening to your partner will give you insights into their behavior and help you arrive at a solution.
Understand contextual behavior: A majority of the conflicts can be avoided if you learn the art of ‘understanding contextual behavior.’ Your partner might have said something or acted a certain way only due to the circumstances and therefore, should be allowed to let off the hook. For example: If your partner is on her period, she might have mood swings and say something out of the way. It is your job as a partner to understand that contextual behavior and cut her some slack.
Take a time out when necessary: Not all conflicts and fights get solved in one go. Some conflicts take time and pushing yourself and your partner to arrive at a conclusion will just make things go out of hand. Know when is the right time to take a timeout but ensure that you matter how long the conflict goes on for, you finally arrive at a happy and mutual conclusion.
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